tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post1261650655078640478..comments2023-05-06T00:26:23.459-07:00Comments on Queen Crocodile: How does a Narcissist Mother choose her targetsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11969754189605721233noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-85476792142434025932013-06-29T07:24:52.346-07:002013-06-29T07:24:52.346-07:00Your Description is a parallel to my upbringing. T...Your Description is a parallel to my upbringing. The first time I set a limit "Please Call Before you come" at 33 years old, She & dad showed up uninvited at a dinner party. They intruded, made demands of me, then burned rubber out of my driveway while screaming F-U! The dinner party was over, but not without a white trash floor show.Adoptee Ragehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04801652683820118278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-7606076227125565172012-07-29T12:20:39.298-07:002012-07-29T12:20:39.298-07:00Hello Dave--Thank you for your post. And no, you a...Hello Dave--Thank you for your post. And no, you are definitely NOT crazy! It's just awful what you and all the rest of us who got dealt the nasty N mother card for this lifetime had to endure growing up in the viper pit with "Mommie Dearest." Though some of the details of my childhood are different, the basic pattern of tyrannical authoritarianism, relentless ongoing abuse, crazy-making denial, strict demands for unquestioning loyalty coupled with the guarantee of punishment for everything and anything that threatened my NMs reign of terror is remarkably similar in my case, and in so many children of NMs. It's like a horror story that repeats itself over and over, across all continents, and through the generations. I am glad to see more and more people speaking up about it and breaking the silence, telling the truth about how horrible life with an NM can be.<br /><br />If you haven't already done so, please consider reading Alice Miller's work on this topic. Her little book--The Drama of the Gifted Child changed my life, when I read it back in my 20s. It was the first validation I got about the damage narcissistic parenting can do. She was so very much ahead of her time in her understanding of the effects of child abuse, and very empathetic towards those who have been victimized by it. Brilliant and compassionate. I highly recommend her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-64248632278154797532012-07-02T09:21:00.562-07:002012-07-02T09:21:00.562-07:00How'd you get a picture of my mother?How'd you get a picture of my mother?Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-83399720360344963332012-06-21T16:24:56.762-07:002012-06-21T16:24:56.762-07:00thanks Jessie it scares me too but beauty is the e...thanks Jessie it scares me too but beauty is the eye of the beholderAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11969754189605721233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-49889740458635819332012-06-21T10:03:43.921-07:002012-06-21T10:03:43.921-07:00And holy cow, that is a frightening picture!And holy cow, that is a frightening picture!jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06399613921768190064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-4331718388372795032012-06-21T10:03:12.203-07:002012-06-21T10:03:12.203-07:00You are not crazy. I also felt (and still feel) t...You are not crazy. I also felt (and still feel) the rules are always changing. I never know what will cause my mother to lash out at me, except for the fact that it usually has more to do with her mood than anything I actually do. If she's feeling jealous, resentful, depressed, or angry, I will definitely hear about it. And usually, why it's my fault.jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06399613921768190064noreply@blogger.com